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You can’t hold anyone responsible

3/21/2024

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One of my favorite movies is the 2006 drama film “Pursuit of Happyness” which starred Will Smith as Chris Gardner. The movie reminds me that we are all in the pursuit of happiness. That’s why you will always hear people say, “I just want to be happy”. However, how many people are truly happy? Or, maybe I should ask, “are you happy?”.  Well, most people are momentarily happy when something good happens to them. It may be the purchase of a new car, a promotion at work, a new child added to the family, getting married or even drinking through the happy hours of the weekend. One of the downsides of the happiness gained through things and events is that it is always short-lived. Anyone may drink wine and be happy but will return to their unhappy states as soon as the effect of the wine is gone.  

The truth is that no one can drink themselves into lasting happiness, neither can anyone dance away their sorrow. If you need to have lots of money to be happy, then you will need to keep getting big sums every day, with the daily amount increasing with time, for the rest of your life. Even with that, you will not find lasting peace and happiness. Some people also think that other people can make them happy. If I can only get married, or have nice friends, I will be so happy. Well, maybe for a while. One thing I have discovered is that happy people are usually happy all by themselves. If you must have a particular person in your life to maintain your happiness, then you may be preparing for the biggest disappointment in life. It is improbable that someone will constantly keep you happy forever. Similarly, if you cannot be happy when you have little, it is unlikely that you will be happy when you have much.
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You may wonder where I am going with this. Well, true happiness is one which does not depend on external factors. You may call it joy if you so desire. True happiness is a product of contentment. You and I need to take pleasure in who we are and what we have now and not worry about what and who we do not have. I have observed that most people are unhappy, keeping themselves in misery and gloom, just because of what they do not have or who they do not have in their life. Here is the truth, you cannot hold anyone or anything responsible for your happiness in life. Be grateful for your current state as you hope for better things.

Actions for the week
  1. Find reasons to be grateful in every circumstance. Be grateful.
  2. Decide to be calm and content with your life, even when you do not yet have everything you need.
  3. Share this message with those who need to read it.

A quote to remember
"A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness." – Albert Einstein

Until another time,
Dele Ola, Award-Winning Author of Be A Change Agent
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