We sometimes don’t appreciate the value of the people around us until we do not have them again. As humankind, we are naturally inclined to needing relationships. Did I hear someone ask if they necessarily need anyone at all? Well, you may need to wait until you do. Everyone needs a hand to hold. That does not mean that you cannot be happy by yourself, but it means that you can share happiness with others. You can rub your life on others and let them also rub theirs on you.

Those who surround themselves with great, kind, compassionate, and positive thinking people have created an environment for themselves that is conducive for success, health, and other good things of life. Meanwhile, forming great relationships or connecting with great people is not by happenstance. Everyone one of us would attract the kind of persons that we are. Anyone who needs a friend must themselves be friendly. It starts with us working on ourselves to be the great persons toward whom others can gravitate. After all, a great relationship is not all about finding the right person but about being the right person. Before you start looking for all the right people out there, ask yourself if you are the right person for someone else.

Anyone that wants to get surround with great people must put in the work. Like begets like. You have probably heard that the outcomes that you produce in your life would most likely be an average of the outcomes of the lives of five persons closest to you. Who are the people closest to you? Do you want the same outcomes you see in their lives? It is time for each one of us to become deliberate on our choices of association, but it starts with us first – with us becoming better versions of ourselves. When we become better, great people will drift toward our side. That’s how to surround yourself with the best people.

We encounter many different situations in life. Some are easy while others are difficult. When things are easy, we feel normal about everything. There is no pressure in a time of ease. We feel like we are in charge. However, when things become difficult or challenging, we feel like we have lost control. We lose our grips, and we get disturbed at times. As it turns out, life is a succession of ups and downs. It is like going on a rollercoaster. As you reach the crests so do you plummet to the base. In difficult times do we not feel crestfallen? So, what should we do when times are rough?

Anyone who just sits, who entertains their negative feelings and wallows in their despondency during a difficult time will not change anything. Burying one’s head under the waves will not lead to swimming to shore. Sometimes we just need to brave the situation, become determined to overcome and get up on our feet when things are difficult. It sounds so easy, right? It may not be as easy as it sounds but we must face the fact – there are no other options. It is either we overcome, or we become inundated by the challenges. We must be ready to take the bull by the horns.
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In what situation are you now? Are you ready to confront your situations? In everyone’s journey to success, there will be challenges on the way, but we must be ready to confront and overcome them. In most cases, we must do what we must do. Sometimes we need to sacrifice much in order to gain much. At other times we need to take risks, and endure something unpleasant. Whatever is the case, we be determined to rise above the challenges. Be ready to take the bull by the horns.

Do you think that you have the moral power to decide other people’s cases? No, you don’t. But that is what most of us attempt to do on daily basis. We are sometimes hasty in concluding who people are, their intentions, their motives and their dispositions. We size people up, put them on our own personal scales and determine their abilities, skills and potentials. We measure people using our own yardsticks and then decide who they are, in our own minds. This attitude has been the basis of our relationships with other people – we conclude too soon. We become the judge of other people’s character, the character we ourselves cannot even measure up to. What a hypocrisy!

Meanwhile, our real assignment is to become an advocate – a person who supports, defends and promotes the interests of others. We are to stand in the gap for the people around us and become the voice for those who do not have voices. If all of us are judges, then who will plead the course of another? We don’t need judges as much as we need advocates. Imagine what the whole world would look like if we all advocate for one another. Imagine that other people are supporting and arguing your cause as you do the same for others.
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This week, I challenge you to be the advocate. There are people who need you to support them, hold their hands, plead on their behalf, speak for them, fight for them, and become a bridge for them. One’s fulfilment in life comes, not from deciding other people’s cases, but through the positive impact we make on other people. The reason some people are unhappy and unfulfilled is because they took the wrong job – a judge, instead of an advocate. Let us all resign from being the judge and accept our new roles as advocates for others.

People eventually produce what once existed in their thoughts, especially in the subconscious of their minds. People become actors in the movies once written and played in their minds.

We may say that our thoughts create our world. Everything you see today was once in someone’s thought, whether good or bad. All creations were once imaginations in the inventive minds of people. That includes both tangible and intangible things, material or immaterial things. For example, doing good for others, working for the good of the society, solving problems, creating products, etc., all originate first in the mind. Likewise, hatred, theft, killing, racism, and the likes also originate from the mind. We create the future by what and how we think.

Everyone is a product of their own imagination. If you imagine something negative happening, and you dwell on that thought until it sinks into your subconscious mind, you will soon attract what you envisioned. The converse is also true. If you allow the thoughts of good things to dominate your imagination, you will attract good things.

We may liken the human mind to a machine that has the capacity to both transmit and receive signals at different frequencies. It does that through the vibration of thoughts. Everything in life operates at their own frequencies, and each one of us can tune our minds to whatever frequency we allow. The results that we produce in our lives are physical equivalents of the thoughts that we transmit and receive. It is like tuning a radio to a particular channel. What frequency is your mind tuned to?
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Everyone’s future starts from what and how they think. It is your responsibility to get the vibration of your thoughts into the frequency of wholesomeness, achievement, abundance, and every good thing of life. That channel is transmitting. Just tune in.