Show up when it matters the most

We go through different moments in life. We have the highs and the lows of life, and many stages in-between. When we are having the mountaintop experience, it is typical to see many people around us, who help to share the joy. Human beings are naturally inclined to sharing good times with you. When you are successful and have a lot to give, you will enjoy the patronage of most people.

However, only a few people will stay with you when the water gets troubled. The best time to know who your true friends are is a time of need, lack or trouble. Those who truly love you will stay with you and provide you their shoulders to lean on. Those who were there just for the abundantly lavish moment will vanish into thin air. They will either turn their back on you or just become passive.

Where am I going with this? It is one of my life philosophies that “you are mostly useful if you are available when you are mostly needed”. Look around you and within your circle. Are there people that you have forgotten or have withdrawn from at their times of need? The way to prove your friendship or whatsoever connection you have with others is to show up when they need you. That is when it matters the most.
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If you always show up only when things are good, rosy, and beautiful, what benefit would that be? If you give your friend a shoe when they already have five shoes, that is okay. But remember to show up with a can of milk when they do not have any. Do not turn your back on, or withdraw from, the people you have shared good times with, especially when their situation changes. Let us look for those in our lives and in our community whose hands we can hold. Show up when it matters the most.

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Actions for the week

1. Moment of truth: Examine yourself to see if you have withdrawn from anyone in your life who really needs you to be there. Decide on what you can do.
2. This week, find someone whose hand you can hold. Can you do something for someone this week that they may not be able to do for themselves? Just go ahead and show up.
3. Make a resolution to always show up for those you have shared good times with, whether things are well with them on not. Make your shoulders available to lean on.

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​A quote to remember
“Employ whatever God has entrusted you with in doing good, all possible good, in every possible kind and degree . . . to all men.” — John Wesley

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Until another time,
Dele Ola, Award-Winning Author of Be A Change Agent
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