Hold them in high esteem

One thing I don’t ever forget is to respect, admire, value and praise those who work with me. How about you? Think about a time in the past when you did something, whether big or small, and someone intentionally gave you kudos for doing it. How did it make you feel? Did you feel like doing it over again, and even much better? People take notice when they are honoured. They feel encouraged to do more. Respecting and honouring those who contribute their effort builds a sense of accomplishment in them. It reinforces their personal beliefs in themselves. It lifts the psyche.

Not esteeming someone or honoring them for an accomplishment, a significant contribution or a completed milestone is not so different from disparaging them. Watch out! If your staff, team members, children, or those you lead do something for you or around you, and you downplay their effort, you may lose the respect they have for you. People typically respond to affirmations, accolades, awards, praise, thank-you notes, etc., in a positive, encouraging manner. The people you value are more likely to stay with you. Those you respect will respect you back, as respect begets respect.
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We must give honour to whom it is due. Who are the people working for you (or with you)? Look around you. Think about how beautiful our workplaces, families, communities, and society will be if we all value, respect and honour one another. Imagine a world where people are appreciated for who they are, the good they have done and what they can do. Envision a workplace, a team, a family, or an organization where people are truthful about the contributions of others and recognize them for their effort. It is time for us to start holding those around us in high esteem, acknowledging them for whatsoever they are doing or can do for the good of society.

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Actions for the week

1. This week, think about three people who have worked with you recently and send them a note acknowledging what they did. Tell them you respect them for their contributions. Be humble.
2. Determine that you will always take notice of those who labour with you or for you.
3. Forgive those who disparaged you or downplayed your contributions. Move on and demonstrate a better character by valuing and respecting others. 

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A quote to remember
“There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self.” – Henri Amiel

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Until another time,
Dele Ola, Award-Winning Author of Be A Change Agent
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