Become thick-skinned, unperturbed

We face different situations in life. Some are pleasant while others are not. Sometimes the road on which we travel may be smooth while at other times we travel through rough patches. One of the situations that have become most-damaging to people is experiencing rejection, rubbishing, or reproach. This is simply because of the effect on one’s psyche. Anything that affects one’s mental health is a serious matter. No one enjoys being vilified and criticized. I am not talking about the soft, positive criticism. I am referring to damaging acts from others that want to just make us feel bad, disapproved, or unworthy. I wonder why anyone would like to do that anyway.

Meanwhile, there is no guarantee that you and I will not experience this negative criticism or disparage. Since some people have determined that it is their job to make others feel bad, then we need to find the right countermeasure to this unacceptable act. Unfortunately, it may not also be within our capacity to control or correct anyone. Therefore, our defense mechanism will include becoming thick-skinned, an attitude of those who are not bothered by the negativity and rejection from others. We must become stronger versions of ourselves and develop a stable mental attitude in the face of circumstances that will normally lead to negative emotions. Sometimes we may even need to just remove ourselves from the negative environment.
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Don’t let anyone or anything pull you down or get under your skin. Determine to believe in yourself, your own self-worth and sense of value. After all, no one can make you feel bad without your consent. Decide that you will keep standing despite the opinions of others about you. No one has the power to control your thought unless you allow them. Become thick-skinned, unperturbed no matter what.

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Actions for the week

1. Have you been negatively criticized, disparaged, rejected or disapproved recently. This about your experience how did you respond? What did you learn?
2. Write two or three things you can do to manage negative acts from others, especially at that moment. How would you ensure that you do not go into a negative emotional outburst?
3. Determine that you will become thick-skinned and maintain your stability in the face of disappointments.

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A quote to remember
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli,

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Until another time,
Dele Ola, Award-Winning Author of Be A Change Agent
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