Please don’t make a fuss about it

This year is about to end. For some, this has been the best year ever. If you are in that category, perhaps you fulfilled your dreams, achieved your objectives, got a new job, made a large sum of money, got married, got gifted with a newborn baby, or won the lottery. Whatever the case, you are happy the year ends well for you. For some others, the year may be termed as “so-so”. It hasn’t been anything spectacularly different. You have mixed feelings. There were periods of both highs and lows. You are just hanging in there. Yet for others, the year hasn’t been pleasant. You have experienced some setbacks. You missed the marks. You wished things were better.

One of my philosophies is that our true experience results from how we think about our situations, and not so much about what happened. You may look at the year through the lens of pessimism, being uncontented with your results and becoming upset about what you didn’t achieve. You may neglect all the good times and focus on all the negatives. It is true that we all go through different events, and that life does not present equal opportunities to us. It is also true that some have been victims of circumstances where others have prevailed. However, our attitude determines whether we will be happy or angry. Our thinking leads us to either complain or remain unmoved.
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Instead of making a fuss about our situation, we may want to focus on the positives. Why is this important? Dwelling on what didn’t work, and complaining about it, does not change anything. Anger saps us of the energy we need to rise above the situations. To thrive, we must draw strengths from within, which is impossible without a positive mindset. We must stay positive regardless of whether we are on top of the world or in the valley of life. To finish the year well, we must put our experiences into proper perspectives. We must weigh our thoughts and be sure that we are seeing things clearly. After all, there are lots of beautiful things to celebrate. Please don’t make a fuss about anything. Celebrate instead.

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Actions for the week

1. Reflect briefly on how the year has gone for you. Focus more on the good times. Maintain a positive mindset for the rest of the year.
2. If there was any setback. Learn from the experience but move on positively.
   
3. Share this message with those in your network

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A quote to remember
“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today." – Franklin D. Roosevelt

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Until another time,
Dele Ola, Award-Winning Author of Be A Change Agent
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